Thought-provoking conversations between me, myself and I
I pretty much answer no calls what so ever. People who want to get a hold of me only call my cell phone. It's actually kind of sad to be honest. I never asked people to only call my cell. I think we are all just so interested in being efficient that it makes more time sense to go right for the cell. Even my 95 year old grandma calls me cell. She leaves a message. Then she calls my house. And leaves a message. Then my cell. To leave a message telling me she left a message on my cell and house phone but of course "no pressure' to call her back. Just when I "have a minute to spare." But again, no pressure;)Vickywww.thepursuitofnormal.blogspot.com
Hi Vicki - that's a good point about people calling the cell to be more "efficient." Actually, I'd still prefer to talk on our land line as the reception is more reliable. Sometimes, talking on a cell sounds like an echo chamber; but not the good old-fashioned land line. Cute story about your Grandma. (That will be me one day.) Thanks for stopping by.
Your blog reinforced what I already know... verbal communication is dying. I think it is very sad that you have to avoid picking up the phone because of telemarketers. On a more serious note, if we don't start talking to each other again, we are going lose a very important skill. http://debidrecksler.com/is-verbal-communication-becoming-extinct/
Texting, Facebook, Twitter, etc. - these are the ways we talk now! Some might say it supplements face-to-face communication but I can see how it is tempting to make it our primary way to communicate. So you have a very valid point! Thanks for stopping by.
I only answer numbers I know, essentially people that I want to talk to. Otherwise, leave a message if it's that important. I will usually listen to messages right away just in case it's someone that needs me and I didn't recognize the number. What I want to know is why no one stops by and has coffee anymore or meets for coffee to have face to face contact. Anonymous is right. We are losing our ability to have verbal communication and we do we don't talk right. I don't think we're helping our kids to learn how to express themselves adequately
When I started freelancing several years ago, I thought most of my work would be handled through online communication. And while a lot of it is, I found myself needing to get out and TALK to people. There's nothing that can replace face-to-face contact...I also found people really get to know you better that way and with multiple meetings. It really takes TIME to develop relationships, both personally and professionally. Thanks for your comment, Susan!
Great post, Pam! Lately I've been answering telemarketers just so I can ask them to PLEASE remove my name and number from their call list. It seems to be helping, somewhat. I also notice people don't chat on the phone as often as they email each other. Or they communicate with little bytes on Facebook. Generally speaking, I think we're over-connected -- and we're spread so thinly in so many activities that we're burned out more easily. After a long day on the computer, or out in the world, I rarely want to sit on the phone and talk at the end of the day. That said, I have a friend who rarely uses email and still prefers the phone. She will chat for an hour on the phone. But that's relatively rare with other friends now. We usually make plans via email or texting.
I think you are right, Cindy. I think we are so over-connected from Facebook, texting, e-mail, etc. that it's hard to justify long conversations on the phone! That said, I DO like to get out and SEE people for face-to-face conversation. But I have to force myself to do that because I'm so used to the electronic means for communications.